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	[3] Clutter Clearing Anxiety http://www.fengshuivermont.com/pubart/five.html		[3] Clutter Clearing Anxiety http://www.fengshuivermont.com/pubart/five.html
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 * '''Step 1 Make a decision to unclutter your life'''
-Once you decide you have had enough of mental clutter [2][3], you can build a practice of removing yourself from any and all contexts that attempt to add to your mental clutter.
+Once you decide you have had enough of mental clutter [2][3], you can
-* '''Step 2 Rewrite your rules'''
+* '''Step 2 Start somewhere'''
 When learning something mechanical, like driving a car or changing a rule, at first you have to pay attention to the details of shifting gear, until you no longer have to. That happens when your body "knows". But it only "knows" for that (type) of car or gear shift. When driving another car, shifting gear may need your attention again. This is like that. For a while, monitor what happens closely in health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution dimensions, and make changes until you no longer have to.
 * '''Step 3 Dealing with the past and others'''

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 ''Are you working flat out just to stay afloat, and not getting anything "important" done? Does it seem like there aren't enough hours in the day? Is your trash can full? Do you feel overwhelmed? No time to spare? No time to unwind?''
-Determine the cause. It could be (too) busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of changes, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills.
+Determine the cause. It could be (too) busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of changes, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills. People in IT are usually overorganised down to the nitty gritty details, and that can be a clutter cause as well: over-organisation and super-rationality.
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-As a personal note: due to the nature of my work in IT I was usually overorganised, and that was my main clutter cause: organisation and super-rationality I needed for my work, but don't need and certainly don't want in my life.
 '''Case study: Uncluttering your life'''
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 * '''Step 1 Make a decision to unclutter your life'''
-Once I decided I’d had enough of mental clutter [2][3], I built a practice of removing myself from any and all contexts that attempt to add to my mental clutter. I stopped associating with certain people, I changed my spending, I left my marriage, I downsized my "possessions". I quit my paid work and didn't die (I’m not saying everyone needs to quit their job, but please understand that remembered and imagined experiences can be worse than when actually going through them). I changed expectations with my family and friends on what I did do and did not want to do, and again, I did not die. I ate some fish, and nearly died, adding to my resolve to remove the clutter from my life.
+Once you decide you have had enough of mental clutter [2][3], you can build a practice of removing yourself from any and all contexts that attempt to add to your mental clutter.
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-I found some support for what I was doing from family and a friend. Everybody that was giving me shit for it (overt and covert attempts at crossing those lines I had just drawn in the sand) was made to walk the plank in my mind.
 * '''Step 2 Rewrite your rules'''

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 People from your past may reappear and may attempt to unjustly write karma in your book. Investigate and pull out the plank again if need be!
-Some good questions to ask when people seem to try to write karma in your book may be: Is what happened then relevant now? Was it even that serious? Was that situation even in my control? Does what that person just say actually have any validity or are they just trolling me to get me to react in for them familiar and comfortable ways?
+Some good questions to ask when people seem to try to write karma in your book may be: Is what happened then relevant now? Was it even that serious? Was that situation even in my control? Does what I heard that person just say actually have any validity or are they just trolling me to get me to react in for them familiar and comfortable ways?
 '''Synthesis'''

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-''Are you working flat out just to stay afloat, and not getting anything "important" done? Does it seem like there aren't enough hours in the day? Is your trash can full? Do you feel like being in a cluttered life? No time to spare? No time to unwind?''
+''Are you working flat out just to stay afloat, and not getting anything "important" done? Does it seem like there aren't enough hours in the day? Is your trash can full? Do you feel overwhelmed? No time to spare? No time to unwind?''
-Determine the cause. It could be busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of previous choices made and actions taken, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills.
+Determine the cause. It could be (too) busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of changes, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills.
-As a personal note: due to the nature of my work in IT I was usually overorganised, and that was my main clutter cause: The mindset of overorganisation and super-rationality I needed for my work.
+As a personal note: due to the nature of my work in IT I was usually overorganised, and that was my main clutter cause: organisation and super-rationality I needed for my work, but don't need and certainly don't want in my life.
 '''Case study: Uncluttering your life'''
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 * '''Step 1 Make a decision to unclutter your life'''
-Once I decided I’d had enough of mental clutter [2][3], I built a practice of removing myself from contexts that attempt to add to my mental clutter. I stopped associating with certain people, I changed my spending, I left my marriage, I downsized my "possessions".
+Once I decided I’d had enough of mental clutter [2][3], I built a practice of removing myself from any and all contexts that attempt to add to my mental clutter. I stopped associating with certain people, I changed my spending, I left my marriage, I downsized my "possessions". I quit my paid work and didn't die (I’m not saying everyone needs to quit their job, but please understand that remembered and imagined experiences can be worse than when actually going through them). I changed expectations with my family and friends on what I did do and did not want to do, and again, I did not die. I ate some fish, and nearly died, adding to my resolve to remove the clutter from my life.
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 I quit my paid work and didn't die (I’m not saying everyone needs to quit their job, but please understand that remembered and imagined experiences can be worse than when actually going through them). I changed expectations with my family and friends on what I did do and did not want to do, and again, I did not die.
 I found some support for what I was doing from family and a friend. Everybody that was giving me shit for it (overt and covert attempts at crossing those lines I had just drawn in the sand) was made to walk the plank in my mind.
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 * '''Step 2 Rewrite your rules'''
-All of us live with inner rules about how to live our lives. Some of those come from our image makers (parents, family), some from our teachers, our (school) friends, and later acquiantances and experiences. Beliefs and rules can act like post hypnotic suggestions (spell casting) and filter our experience of reality. Some indigenous call those "pretender voices". Some examples are:
+All of us live with inner rules about how to live our lives. Some of those come from our imagemakers (parents, family), some from our teachers, our (school) friends, and later experiences. Beliefs and rules can act like post hypnotic suggestions (spell casting) and filter our experience of reality. Some indigenous call those "pretender voices", like:
 * "I don't think I can ...."
 * "I must make others happy"
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 * "It's [label] fault!"
 * ...
-Alter the spell you are casting on yourself:
+Alter wording the spell you are apparently casting on yourself:
 * State your rule
 * Choose the most significant verb or noun in your rule
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 * '''Step 3 Dealing with the past and others'''
-Something happens. Trace what just happened and what might be related, what you ate, who you met, what was seen, heard, read, smelled, what meanings you made (and what other possible meanings can be made) and meanings about meanings made, what significance you assigned to the meanings made, and practice (other) responses in a safe setting or the next time the situation seems to reoccur. And don't be hard on yourself when you do not do that next time. All that slack and understanding you gave others because you think it's okay to make mistakes? Give it to yourself now.
+Something happens. Trace what just happened and what might be related, what you ate, who you met, what was seen, heard, read, smelled, what meanings you made (and what other possible meanings can be made) and meanings about meanings made, what significance you assigned to the meanings made, and practice (other) responses in a safe setting, or the next time the situation seems to reoccur. And don't be hard on yourself when you do not do what you have set as intent for a "next time". All that slack and understanding you gave others because you think it's okay to make mistakes? Give it to yourself now.
-People from your past may reappear and may attempt to unjustly write their karma in your book. Investigate and pull out the plank again if need be!
+People from your past may reappear and may attempt to unjustly write karma in your book. Investigate and pull out the plank again if need be!
 Some good questions to ask when people seem to try to write karma in your book may be: Is what happened then relevant now? Was it even that serious? Was that situation even in my control? Does what that person just say actually have any validity or are they just trolling me to get me to react in for them familiar and comfortable ways?

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−	''Are you working flat out just to stay afloat, and not getting anything "important" done? Does it seem like there aren't enough hours in the day~~, or money in the bank~~? Is your trash can full? Do you feel like being in a cluttered life? No time to spare? No time to unwind?''	+	''Are you working flat out just to stay afloat, and not getting anything "important" done? Does it seem like there aren't enough hours in the day? Is your trash can full? Do you feel like being in a cluttered life? No time to spare? No time to unwind?''

	Determine the cause. It could be busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of previous choices made and actions taken, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills.		Determine the cause. It could be busy schedules getting in the way, temporary overload as an effect of previous choices made and actions taken, lack of motivation (what was labeled "important" may not be that important to you), not being able to let go of stuff (for various reasons), or it could be a lack of know-how in organisational skills.

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 All of us live with inner rules about how to live our lives. Some of those come from our image makers (parents, family), some from our teachers, our (school) friends, and later acquiantances and experiences. Beliefs and rules can act like post hypnotic suggestions (spell casting) and filter our experience of reality. Some indigenous call those "pretender voices". Some examples are:
 * "I don't think I can ...."
-** "I don't think I can ...."
+* "I must make others happy"
-** "I must make others happy"
+* "It doesn't matter ..."
-** "It doesn't matter ..."
+* "You can't make me ..."
-** "You can't make me ..."
+* "It's not fair ..."
-** "It's not fair ..."
+* "I'm a [label] if I ..."
-** "I'm a [label] if I ..."
+* "What now?"
-** "What now?"
+* "It's [label] fault!"
-** "It's [label] fault!"
+* ...
-** ...
-−
 Alter the spell you are casting on yourself:
 * State your rule
-** State your rule
+* Choose the most significant verb or noun in your rule
-** Choose the most significant verb or noun in your rule
+* Choose at least two words that rhyme with that word
-** Choose at least two words that rhyme with that word
+* Choose a word that's opposite
-** Choose a word that's opposite
+* Choose a freely associated word that has nothing whatsoever to do with the words in your rule
-** Choose a freely associated word that has nothing whatsoever to do with the words in your rule
+* Restate the original rule, substituting the new words and read the rules out loud to yourself
-** Restate the original rule, substituting the new words and read the rules out loud to yourself
+* How is that old rule doing?
-** How is that old rule doing?
+When learning something mechanical, like driving a car or changing a rule, at first you have to pay attention to the details of shifting gear, until you no longer have to. That happens when your body "knows". But it only "knows" for that (type) of car or gear shift. When driving another car, shifting gear may need your attention again. This is like that. For a while, monitor what happens closely in health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution dimensions, and make changes until you no longer have to.
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-When learning something mechanical, like driving a car, changing a rule, at first you have to pay attention to the details of shifting gear, until you no longer have to. That happens when your body "knows". But it only "knows" for that (type) of car or gear shift. When driving another car, shifting gear may need your attention again. This is like that. For a while, monitor what happens closely in health, relationships, passion, growth, and contribution dimensions, and make some changes until you no longer have to.
 * '''Step 3 Dealing with the past and others'''
-Stop what you are doing. Check how you feel. Trace what just happened and what might be related, what you ate, who you met, what was seen, heard, read, smelled, what meanings you made (and other meanings that can be made) and meanings about meanings made, what significance you assigned to the meanings made, and practice (other) responses (next time). And don't be hard on yourself when you do not that next time. All that slack and understanding you gave others because you think people deserve to be treated humanely? Give it to yourself first.
+Something happens. Trace what just happened and what might be related, what you ate, who you met, what was seen, heard, read, smelled, what meanings you made (and what other possible meanings can be made) and meanings about meanings made, what significance you assigned to the meanings made, and practice (other) responses in a safe setting or the next time the situation seems to reoccur. And don't be hard on yourself when you do not do that next time. All that slack and understanding you gave others because you think it's okay to make mistakes? Give it to yourself now.
-People from your past may reappear and attempt to unjustly write their karma in your book. Investigate and pull out the plank again if need be!
+People from your past may reappear and may attempt to unjustly write their karma in your book. Investigate and pull out the plank again if need be!
-I have made and I make mistakes yes, and I have been (too) hard on myself for making those mistakes. Through making mistakes I learn what works for me and what doesn't. Some good questions to ask when people try to write karma in your book may be: Is what happened then relevant now? Was it even that serious? Was that situation even in my control? Does what that person just say actually have any validity or are they just trolling me to get me to react in for them familiar and comfortable ways?
+Some good questions to ask when people seem to try to write karma in your book may be: Is what happened then relevant now? Was it even that serious? Was that situation even in my control? Does what that person just say actually have any validity or are they just trolling me to get me to react in for them familiar and comfortable ways?
 '''Synthesis'''
 '''References'''

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